I was recently thinking about why my work has always involved understanding how to connect with human beings. I work as an actress as well as with clients in psychotherapy and use these skills with our work for the Art of Communication. They are each linked by their focus in self-expression and the development and growth of the self. But we don’t learn about ourselves in isolation. It is through being in relationship with others that we begin to understand our boundaries, limitations and areas of psychological work. I am passionate about understanding how to develop our relationship with an audience, a team, a partner or a colleague because that is what makes human beings tick. It is through our interconnectivity that we make sense of our lives and understand why we behave as we do so we can evolve.
I recently read in the ‘New Psychotherapist’ how millennials may be computer savvy but not psychologically equipped to steer themselves through the complexities of real life relationships.
‘Millennials are the first generation to develop a sense of self identity through the lens of managed and curated online lives. For some, their sense of real world identity and self worth is intricately linked to show how their online self is received and responded to’ Selfies say it all. This is all at the expense of real world encounters and that’s scary. I actually heard a girl on the tube talking to her friend about a guy that she wanted to ask out for a date. He was in the next door carriage. She could see him, but she was going to message him, instead of speaking to him.
Surely it is only through the experience of actually learning to communicate through face to face interaction that we learn a little more about ourselves, however excruciating this might be? We need to take the risk of stepping outside of our comfort zone. That’s why I get up in the morning to learn little bit more about other people and how they work. Through this I know myself better. Relational experiences make me a stronger person. Hamlet said it when he asked himself ‘to be or not to be’ (Act 3, sc 1) Now that really is the question.
Written by Charlotte Lucas.