It has been inspiring to collaborate with three strong, clever women, who like me want to use their skills as professionally trained actors to create a business in communication.What unites us as a team, is our desire to use our artistic talents outside the conventional remit to develop a creative experience in the work space.
What inspires me is our commitment to create not only a thriving business, but an environment that is supportive and nurturing for us all at different stages of our lives.Two of the team have children, two of us don’t, but are juggling different professional commitments. It takes great energy, flexibility of mind, patience and empathy to be able to mutually manage our different professional needs and personal commitments. Qualities that we understand make for strong team building. But keeping hold of the belief, that everything will fall into place, when your brain keeps telling you it ‘should have been done yesterday’ is a constant battle and brought me to this realisation. It’s not about the winning, but about the learning, more grey thinking, less black and white expectations.
By taking time to give yourself space to reflect and think, we build a new awareness for what we want. Whilst we listen to the negative voices of what we ‘should be doing’ or ‘where we should be’ we can block connecting with some of our deepest desires. This is psychologically tricky to shift, I know. We have been socially conditioned to think we should behave in particular ways. We live in a world filled with so much choice, where it looks like you can have anything if you want it enough, and if you don’t get it, you’ve failed. More and more, I feel that such black and white thinking gives rise to negative thought patterns.
I recently read that more than ever ‘we live in a society where assertiveness and action are encouraged and reflection and introspection are equated with weakness and incompetency’ Whilst I think our attitudes to positive mental health are slowly shifting, I believe we often think the latter.
Megan Walsh from The Times writes about the book ‘Quiet’ ‘that perhaps rather than sitting back and asking people to speak up, managers and company leaders might lean forward and listen’. Taking the time to clarify our message through thinking things through calmly and carefully can make a big difference to the impact a presentation can have. Neil Thompson in his book ‘People Skills’ suggests there are six steps to gain a deeper reflective practice: Read around your topic. Ask people questions. Watch what is going on around you. Feel; pay attention to your emotions. Talk share your experiences with others and think by learning to value time spent thinking about your work.
Taking action and being assertive is great but without giving ourselves time to reflect, the consequence of our actions maybe damaging to our professional and personal lives. I’m not saying do less, or become self obsessed, I’m actually thinking it’s possible to do more when we make time for ourselves to think clearly. This in turn can enrich our lives and everyone around us. I’m afraid it’s too late for Donald Trump though.
Blog by Charlotte Lucas